Well the little guy has just finished his 2nd day of “school”. I will admit, after weeks of tears, it wasn’t as horrible dropping him off as I had expected. It was, however, difficult picking him up. Walking in that room, I hated knowing that I had left him with complete strangers all day. As we all know, no one will ever take care of your child as well as you, the parent….especially when there are several other children that are vying for their attention. I was warned that it will likely take a week or two for him to get adjusted to the noise and other distractions and until that point, he may not nap well.
I will admit, we have been spoiled the past few months having my sister in law watching him. With no other responsibilities, she was dedicated to my son and she did a great job working with me to keep lucas on a schedule based on my wishes. Whenever she had questions she would call or text. It brought me such peace of mind knowing that she had my sons best interest at heart. I have worked VERY hard when it comes to his sleeping. If you know me, you will know that his sleeping schedule comes first. I believe that as his parent, it is my responsibility to ensure that he gets the best sleep that he can. That means, I plan all my outings around his nap times so that he does not get sub par sleep in his car seat while running errands. I make sure that he sleeps in his crib for every nap and his 6:30 bedtime is strictly adhered to.
Now, as I picked up my sweet boy yesterday at school, it came as no surprise that he did not sleep great, but he did get almost 1 1/2 hrs throughout the day which is not too awful. However, when I walked in with the lights out, he was right there in his swing. He seemed so out of it b/c I’m sure he was exhausted after such a big day in a strange environment. His teachers told me that he was fussy when they put him in his crib and only took a 25-30 min nap in the morning. In the afternoon, however he would not sleep so they put him in a swing. He slept about 25 min in that and then remained content and somewhat sleepy so they left him in it. (Let me add that Lucas has NEVER wanted to stay in his swing for more than 20 min and certainly would not nap in it so this shocked me a bit.
Now, today, I went to pick him up and saw him on a play mat playing with his teacher and another baby. They said he did so great and that he slept for almost 2 1/2 hrs!!!! Wow how awesome is that…. And then she continued to tell me that he slept that long nap in a swing.STOP. I almost choked and am getting teary eyed thinking about it. Not sure why. First off, I have worked so hard to prevent him from developing bad habits like sleeping in places other than his crib. Second, I just hate the thought of him sleeping sitting up. However, he slept for almost 2 1/2 hrs. I’m completely at a loss for how I should feel about this. I mean on one hand he had a great nap and was so beyond happy when I walked in and picked him up. He was all smiles and jumping in his lap it just made my heart melt. On the other hand, that sleep was not in his/a crib.
So, Moms and Dads, I’m asking for your advice here. Do I go talk to his teachers and ask that they try harder to get him to sleep in his crib even if it means he cries a bit and may get less sleep at least at first until he gets used to his new surroundings? Or do I keep my mouth closed and allow him to sleep where he sleeps even if that means its not his crib?
I know they cannot spend the one on one time focused on getting him to sleep in his crib since he is not the only baby there, but I just hope they don’t quickly pass him off to a swing to keep him quiet (which might I remind you, in his almost 6 months of life, he has NEVER been content for that long unless he was being held or lying down and sleeping in his crib. So I struggle with how he has suddenly taken to sleeping in a swing.
I look forward to your thoughts,
A distressed mom